Unhappy Child

1. A person is not able to feel anger when he or she is absolutely powerless.

2. A child's rudeness reveals the anxiety in his or her family.

3. To stop a child's behavior of whining, parents often try to ignore the whining; however, this can not stop the whining inside the child's heart even when the behavior appears to have been stopped. 

      Whining is a natural behavior of children signaling extreme discomfort and asking for help. Ignoring a child's whining cannot help stop the child's whining but trigger the child growing up into an angry or anxious teenager, often overweight if otherwise normal as he or her longing for comfort. When a child whines, parents need to calmly and patiently communicate with the child, ask him or her to verbally describe his or her feelings and the reasons of whining, express understanding towards the child's feeling, calmly explain the parents' limitation if the parent cannot meet the child's desires or needs, and explains that whining is not an appreciated behavior -- tell the child that in general articulating one's needs is more effective than whining for it is a clearer and more respectful way of communication.